Benefits

Name what each party actually gains, stated in that party's own terms rather than yours. Be concrete: the specific thing they get, not a general "this helps them." Gains one person values may mean nothing to another in the same room.

Name what each party actually gains, stated in that party's own terms rather than yours. Be concrete: the specific thing they get, not a general "this helps them." Gains one person values may mean nothing to another in the same room.

Example

In the house purchase, the kids' gain is a fenced yard and staying at one school through high school. Your spouse's is a kitchen big enough to cook in with friends. Yours is a home office you stop sharing with the laundry.