NE_UNSAFE

Skip the probe because testing it creates disproportionate risk; use a safer proxy or protective action instead.

You're anxious about your partner's commitment, and the internet's worst ideas are whispering: a loyalty test, a fake flirty account, a quick read of their messages while they shower. The uncertainty is real. The proposed probes are the problem, because each one damages the very thing you're trying to measure.

The rule: when testing creates disproportionate risk, don't run the test. Notice the asymmetry of outcomes: if you're caught snooping, you've broken trust over a suspicion; if the trap is "passed," you've learned almost nothing and still planted a lie in the relationship. Steps: name the probe's risk honestly before running it, then route the same uncertainty through a safer channel: a direct conversation about what's making you anxious, or a session with a counselor who handles exactly this. If the situation warrants protection rather than information, take the protective step openly. What changes is that the uncertainty gets addressed without detonating the thing it's about, and you keep your own integrity intact either way. This code doesn't apply when a safe, consented way to learn the same thing exists; then the move is simply to use that channel instead of avoiding the question.