Erotic-Domestic Tension (The Mating in Captivity Paradox)
Perel’s framework explores tensions that can arise between domestic familiarity and the autonomy, curiosity, and novelty associated with desire
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Perel’s framework explores tensions that can arise between domestic familiarity and the autonomy, curiosity, and novelty associated with desire
Error-correcting codes add structured redundancy that permits recovery from specified patterns of corruption
Send a predefined red flag straight to whoever is actually authorized to handle it.
Predefine the danger signals, their authorized destination, and the immediate safe action, so the ordinary workflow ends the moment one fires.
Some state, like debt, conflict, or confidence, keeps compounding because each turn makes the next turn bigger.
Three or four stacked slots where each one is more extreme than the one above. The stack asserts a direction: further down is further along, and the last rung is where the clever people are. That claim about direction is never argued, only drawn. Useful when the escalation is real and each rung genuinely subsumes the one before. Misleading when the rungs are just four options and you have quietly sorted them by how much you like them.
A system archetype where two parties respond to each other's actions with escalating competitive responses—each side's action is the stimulus for the other's reaction, producing a self-reinforcing spiral
Barry Staw's research on why decision-makers increase investment in failing courses of action rather than cutting losses
Before touching the work, fix three numbers: how much you'll do, how long you'll spend, and what help or aid you'll use. Make the dose small enough that failing costs almost nothing. Restating named the task; this sizes it.
Estate planning structures asset ownership, beneficiary designations, legal documents, and tax strategies to ensure wealth transfers with minimum friction
Ethical fading occurs when the moral dimensions of a decision gradually become invisible, typically through psychological mechanisms that reframe ethical choices as purely business, technical, or pragmatic ones
The ethical journalism decision tree is a structured question sequence for ethically ambiguous situations: Is it newsworthy? Is it true? What harm could publication cause? Can harm be minimized while preserving truth? Ha…
Ethical leadership combines moral person (individual character—integrity, honesty, caring about people, fairness in decisions) with moral manager (actively promoting ethical behavior through communication, reinforcement,…
An ethical will (distinct from a legal will) is a document that transmits moral and spiritual legacy — values, beliefs, life lessons, hopes, apologies, and blessings — rather than material assets
The ethics of care argues that moral reasoning is fundamentally relational, not abstract
Eudaimonia concerns flourishing or living well; Aristotle connects it to virtuous activity across a life and relevant external conditions
Draws only the regions that have members. If nothing belongs to both sets, the circles do not touch. If one set sits wholly inside another, it is drawn inside. The shape of the picture is itself a claim, so an Euler says more than a Venn and can be wrong in ways a Venn cannot.
The euphemism treadmill describes a pattern in which replacement terms acquire negative associations connected to what they name
Steven Pinker's linguistic concept applied to organizational communication: the pattern where terms are repeatedly replaced with softer alternatives, each new term eventually acquiring the negative associations of the ol…
The structured practice of systematically comparing decision options against explicit criteria before choosing—rather than defaulting to the first plausible option or the most emotionally appealing one
A protocol for ending the workday with a structured ritual that creates a clear psychological boundary between work and rest, based on Cal Newport's deep work methodology
Recast the thing as a stream of dated happenings instead of a standing entity. You get a timeline you can count, order, and timestamp, so the questions become when, how often, and what preceded it, rather than what it is.
When a fix works briefly and the problem returns, trace one consequence back to an earlier cause and mark its sign and delay.
A hierarchy for evaluating the reliability of evidence: randomized controlled experiments provide the strongest evidence, followed by large observational studies, small studies, case reports, expert opinion, and finally…